I’ve never paid much attention to Valentine’s Day. Before I went to Australia, I was working on my own during the camp off-season, having a limited social life that didn’t bring such things to my attention. If I noticed beforehand, it would be because I paid attention to the holidays listed on my ten different Lord of the Rings and Star Wars calendars. But then again, I didn’t buy those to check out the holidays, I bought them for the pictures.
This time of year, I’m usually becoming aware of the Cadbury creme eggs and other Easter candy that’s arriving in the grocery stores, not whether Walmart is carrying more red roses than usual. You have to steel yourself to walk by the dangerous candy, not worry that a Valentine will jump off the shelf into your cart.
And then I remembered last year. I was writing a post about love, dating, and marriage that turned into a slight rant about online dating. Well, maybe “rant” isn’t the right word, but I had some decided opinions on the subject. All of this, without realizing that Valentine’s Day was approaching. Honest! So, I hurried up my writing, and made sure it was posted on that day. What better way to get some new viewers to my blog? ; )
So, I’ve just re-read my “i’m no dating guru” post. It made me want to laugh AND wonder exactly how steamed I was over the subject of online dating. To get me to be honest about my non-dating history, that episode of looking into online dating must’ve really set me off. I write better if I really FEEL something about the subject (either adoration, frustration, or rage, for example). And a year later, what I wrote still applies. All of it. I could have written that post yesterday, because everything I said is still true, about me and what I think concerning love, dating, and marriage. And everyone should STILL put their best foot forward, in life and love, whether you’re online or in person.
In the past year, I have explored the online dating scene once more, but I eventually got bored/annoyed with it. Please note that I said with “it”, the actual program, not that I get easily bored/annoyed with guys. I enjoy talking to people and getting to know them, if they give me a chance.
I found that the profiles had remained the same and the guys still suggested that you just need to “shoot them an e-mail”, if you’re interested. Whatever happened to deciding to chase a girl, in good earnest? These websites don’t seem to discourage their potential daters from this lackadaisical attitude. As helpful as online dating may be to people that live in a place where it’s very hard to meet people, the potential dater still need to be ready for a relationship, in order to make a serious try at getting to know someone.
Which leads me back to good old meeting-people-the-normal-way, and getting to know them. It’s never easy. I do extremely well when I’m on my “home turf”, and welcoming all the newbies to my favorite camps and conferences. In these places, I’m the regular that knows all the ropes, runs up and down the boardwalks for fun, and jumps up and down with excitement over new attendees. In places that I’m not so comfortable, I’m more of a wallflower, but I’m working on it. One day at a time, one step at a time, and very thankful for all the friendships that I already have.
I think I got off track. Did I have a track, to start with? I’m not sure. In the end, whether you celebrate Valentine’s Day or not, whether you get flowers or a card, be thankful for the friends and loved ones that you already have. If you don’t have a significant other, then don’t forget to call your parents and tell them you love them. Or your best friend. We would all be better off if we remembered to show love on other days of the year, and on this holiday-of-hearts, you can still show love to your friends and family. Some days, everybody could use a hug. Don’t forget that love is an action, so act on it, and brighten someone else’s day!